Dear friend in your mid-twenties,
Most people don't tell you this until you've already arrived, but welcome to your quarter life crisis. (I know sometimes in this season it feels like you won't make it to that mid-life crisis and yellow porsche at all.) There's a reason everyone calls college the best time of your life and never mentions the first couple of years after.
You will question what you're doing with your life anywhere from 1 to 100 times a day. And you'll probably question if you're good at anything at all after the second time you add baking powder instead of baking soda to a recipe, get lost for the 10th time in a new city, get turned down from a job for the 20th time or wake up to your mom standing over you in her basement every morning.
You will be lonely at times and realize you've forgotten how to make friends post college...which is when you buy a dog (but, never stoop so low as to buy a cat ... times are never that bad).
The friends you do have now are all traveling at different speeds, some to grad school, some around the world and some into marriage. All the while you're just wondering how you'll afford to go to six different showers, bachelor(ette) parties and weddings on your starter salary (or no salary at all). But, then again maybe you're the one with the ring on your finger and while you love the one who put it there, you have mini heart attacks about the word "forever" because it turns out that's a long time.
You'll grow to hate the phrases, "It will all work out eventually," "God's got a plan" and "One day at a time," but deep (deep, deep, deep) down you know it's true.
And just when you think things are looking up and you have the best day ever, you'll wake up in the middle of the night vomiting from some terrible parasite, because sometimes that's just how life is.
But, I want you to remember something very important ... all of this stuff, it doesn't define you.
Getting turned down from a job feels personal a lot of the time, but your worth is not in that job. Realizing your only friend left without a ring on their finger is your dog does not mean there is something wrong with you. Having no clue who you are yet or who you want to be isn't going to last forever.
So take heart and revel in the (sometimes sucky) stage that you're in, because all you can do is live in it. And when you realize that, some of the worry about tomorrow disappears and you're able to see more clearly the goodness in the midst of the crappy, the joy that comes from hope (Romans 12:12) and the difference you can make in the lives of the people around you who feel exactly the same way.
"The place where you are right now God circled on a map for you. Wherever your eyes and arms and heart can move against the earth and sky, the Beloved has bowed there. Our Beloved has bowed there knowing you were coming. I could tell you a priceless secret about your real worth dear pilgrim. But any unkindness to yourself, any confusion about others, will keep one from accepting the grace, the love!" -Hafiz